lipstickslytherin asked: Carrie did victim blame. I'm not twisting her words at all. She literally said "It’s about having the confidence and the self-esteem and the self-respect to say ‘I don’t want this." That's exactly what she said. She's suggesting that rape/abuse survivors, like myself, didn't have the self-respect to say no. And, sure, she talked about consent later, but this phrase right here victim blames and is hurtful to victims. And calling her out on this one thing is not "hatred," as you naively put it.
I know she said that, but again it’s taken completely out of context, she later apologized if her words came across in an offensive manner, she posted on her tumblr. I agree of course, it’s not about self respect, nor self esteem when saying no, she was in my opinion trying to say in a badly worded manner something along the lines of: You should make it very clear that you don’t want to do this act.
There are circumstances where this would be pretty much impossible such as if you froze, or were intoxicated, she was specifically talking about relationships where the other person is pressuring or coercing the other into something.
Carrie’s apology on her tumblr:
“I’d just like the point out the 4:01 show video was aimed at teenagers who are in their early relationships who are only just approaching sexual encounters. It wasn’t aimed at those who have been raped or abused but to those who may be made to feel uncomfortable or pressured in their own relationships. I’m very sorry again that my wording made it sound like I was accusing those who have been abused, weren’t strong enough to say no. That is obviously not what I think because I’d be a stupid, horrible person if I did! If you have been abused, it’s your abusers fault entirely.”
I am a survivor too, when watching it I didn’t find anything about what she said offensive nor victim blaming, she also reiterated in the video that abuse is always the abuser’s fault. I’m not naive, thanks, I found the phrase out of context offensive, when people on this website are leading a witch hunt against Carrie for saying something she simply didn’t word correctly. I’m sick of people seeing something about this sensitive topic and people going out of their way to twist words, attack and discredit someone.
Yet another example of how vicious and cruel this community can be. Carrie did not victim blame, everyone is taking what she said completely out of context, and on purpose too, if you do take that sentence out of it’s original context it sounds awful.
It seems as soon as someone talks about this topic they hear what they want to perceive so they have an excuse to jump on a bandwagon of hatred at someone who doesn’t deserve it.
I’m not saying victim blaming never happens in this community and on Youtube, it does, but Carrie didn’t. Let’s move on to helping actual survivors.
yeah so i slept with this dude last night and idk we were chatting a bit during the sexy time and for some reason his birthday came up and i was like “wait 25th of september? DUDE me TOO, wtf thats such a coincidence” and he was like “really? we have the same birthday? are u fuckin with me?” and i just looked down at his penis literally inside my vagina and was like “well technically yeah” and he was like haha nice one and high fived me
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So far, I have been enjoying the Adventures of Business Cat a great deal, possibly more than is appropriate for an adult human. (All of these are from the webcomic Happy Jar)
UPDATE: Now with more Business.
YES ALL THE BUSINESS CAT STRIPS IN ONE PLACE
This IS the best I can do
I am NOT slacking off
I am NOT using my mental illness as an excuse
It IS ok that my best is not the same as other people’s bests
Is this how lesbian sex works
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